Category: Shibari Glossary

Pink Film

Pink Film

A Pink film is a Japanese softcore film which frequently shows Shibari and Kinbaku. Production of pink films began after World War II and reached their peak in the 70s. They are not pornographic because Japanese regulations forbid to show genitalia on screen. Consequently, Pink films are a lot more playful and erotic, since they…
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Aftercare

Aftercare

Just as it is rude to fall asleep right after sex, it is not right to end a Shibari scene just by untying your partner in silence and then saying goodbye in a hurry. A Shibari scene, even a simple one, is an intense experience, both physically and emotionally. Therefore, it is important to take…
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Breach of Consent

Breach of consent

Even the most careful and caring participants in a Shibari scene can make mistakes. Breach of consent is the accidental violation of something that participants previously agreed during the negotiation. It is different from predatory behavior, since it is accidental and not deliberate. Breach of consent can be either the rigger’s or the bottom’s responsiblity.…
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Safety

Safety

Safety is essential for any Shibari scene. Shibari implies risk. Even the most experienced practitioners face unexpected situations and accidents from time to time. Consequently, it is important to put safety as one of the top priorities when practicing Shibari. Safety involves three elements: risk awareness before the scene, precautions during the scene, and what…
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Predatory Behavior

Predatory Behavior

Predatory behavior is a term to define those who abuse their role as riggers. It also includes those who take advantage of the vulnerability of the person tied. Most Shibari and BDSM practitioners are responsible people who want to enjoy an alternative sexual lifestyle, without harming anyone. However, as in any activity, there will always…
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Submission

Submission

Submission is usually understood as a state of powerlessness or weakness. However, when developed within a context of consent, submission has a very different meaning. Actually, erotic submission, such as the one we find in Shibari scenes, requires great strength, for a weak person would never be able to assume a position of vulnerability, and…
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Dominance

Dominance

A dominant person, in one of the most common BDSM misconceptions, is someone who is loud and brash. However, this is a stereotype that we should challenge in order to attain a more accurate, better view of what a dominant person is. Dominance should be more related to good leadership. And good leadership involves skill,…
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Negotiation

Negotiation

Negotiation is an open, constructive discussion which takes place before a Shibari scene. Participants must express clearly and specifically their interests, desires, comfort levels and boundaries. In the end, negotiation sets the terms for a commitment between partners. It is, therefore, very important to keep communication open and honest during negotiation. This is the only…
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Vanilla and Kinki

Vanilla and Kinki

Vanilla and Kinki are not opposites, but rather the extremes of a continuous that go from the more conventional kind of sex practices to the weirdest. It is important that you know them, so that you can enjoy a wider diversity in your intimate life. Vanilla means normal. Now, remember that the definition of normal…
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Consent

Consent

Consent should be the foundation of any relationship. Even in a non-sexual encounter, such as a Shibari scene, an informed decision to participate is absolutely necessary. This is the case especially when you haven’t known your partner for very long, but it also applies to long-time partners. Never take anything for granted. Never assume that…
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