Sexual coercion is a term that refers to sexual activity that is done under pressure, blackmail, deceit, or manipulation. Its purpose is making the victim agree (apparently in a free manner) to perform acts that they actually don’t want to perform. Let’s take a moment to digest this definition. Blackmail is easy to identify because…
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BDSM in general and bondage in particular carry the weight of an unfortunate misconception. Many people think that they are hostile to women. In their view, this kind of practices objectify and humiliate women. This, of course, is a gross misunderstanding. And it is upheld mostly by people who have never practiced any kind of…
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Originally, “aesthetic” was a philosophical term with quite a complex meaning. However, many people are using it right now to refer to something that is beautiful, especially on social media. It is important to know this because some people praise a Shibari scene when they see it by saying that it looks aesthetic. In the…
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Body positivity is one of today’s buzzwords. It is part of a wider tendency toward acceptance of diversity. Now, since Shibari is evidently a physical activity, it is pertinent to ask if there is a relationship between body positivity and Shibari. And the short answer is yes. Shibari welcomes all kinds of bodies. Of course,…
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In the book “A Steampunk’s Guide to Sex”, KC Crowell contributes a chapter entitled “How to Deel with, and Not Be, a Creep”. In a few pages, she offers great advice. So, we’ve decided to quote extensively from her text, in order to avoid uncomfortable situations for our readers. KC Crowell studied journalism and philosophy…
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It’s not unusual for participants in a Shibari scene—especially tops—to reach a point of euphoria. Psychological literature defines it as a state of extreme happiness and an elevated sense of well-being. This, in itself, is not bad. Actually, we spend most of our lives striving to reach such a state. Feeling good and powerful, transcending…
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Nowadays, it is common to think of ourselves as limitless beings. We believe we can achieve any goal we set for ourselves. We see ourselves as unstoppable. However, there are physical and logical limits to what we can do. Moreover, each person works within a psychological frame, and this means that, for every activity we…
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Acceptance is not easy. We tend to believe that we accept ourselves, each other, and the world we live in. However, if we begin to question our relationship to ourselves, the others, and the environment we live in, we will see that things get complicated. Self-acceptance begins with the acceptance of your own body. This…
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People usually understand vulnerability as the possibility of being hurt or overpowered. So, for example, we say that a place is vulnerable when there are evident ways of trespassing. Likewise, we say of a person that they are vulnerable if we know their secrets or compromising information about them. Vulnerability, in its most basic sense,…
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As any practitioner knows, BDSM encompasses a whole range of practices. From latex to whipping, and from cosplay to spanking, there is something for everybody under the umbrella term of kink. Some of the practices find a wider acceptance, even by people with a decidedly vanilla lifestyle. Whereas others strive to become standard, and a…
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