Shibari Improves your Health

Shibari Improves your Health

We went to a Shibari exhibition. It sounded like something exotic and sexy. That’s why when my husband asked me to go together, I said, why not? I didn’t know how true it is that Shibari improves your health.

It was wonderful, actually! I never thought tying and restraint could be so exciting and beautiful. Truth is, I used to think, like many people do, that Shibari was just some kind of dirty and violent thing weirdos and sadists did in their bedrooms. I couldn’t be more wrong! It is an art. It is erotic. And, it is something that builds a strong, wordless connection between two people that find each other fascinating.

I wanted to try it. I said so to my husband and he immediately agreed. However, I noticed that something was bothering him. Then, when we took our first lesson together, I realized what the problem was. I’m a lazy person, so I’m totally out of shape. And any good instructor of Shibari will tell you the truth about how physically unfit you are for bondage, instead of putting you at risk. 

I was upset, but I had to admit he was right. Even with the simplest knots, I felt uncomfortable. Pain, dizziness, and feeling tired are not the kind of things you look for in Shibari. Definitely, I wasn’t ready.

However, I was not going to quit. I wanted to experience in my own body all those wonderful things I had seen at the exhibition. So, I scheduled an ambitious calendar for the rest of the year. Then, I found a professional, reliable channel on Youtube, where an instructor helped people like me with exercise routines specially designed for people out of shape. I saved the money I would have paid if I had enrolled in a gym. And finally, I did the most important thing of them all: I sweated every damn drop until I felt I could do no more. And then did the same the following day, and the next, and the next.

In November, I asked my husband to take the workshop again. He hesitated a little. He didn’t want me to feel miserable again. But this time I was ready, and things were different.

By the end of this year, we will try suspension for the first time. And I couldn’t be happier. Shibari improves your health, believe me.

This is my Shibari story.