Shibari Emotions

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During sessions, shibari emotions are a priority. In this discipline, the emphasis is not placed on the binding itself, but on how the rope is placed from the rigger. The rope becomes an extension of his/her hands and creates a relationship of intimacy.

The Japanese bondage concerns more on the path that leads to the final result than on the bondage itself. Kinbaku, unlike Western bondage, is not a practice, but a real discipline that involves what the Japanese call kokoro: heart, spirit, and mind. Shibari is a power exchange session through the use of ropes. The rigger builds the session on the basis of what the tired person inspires and suggests via emotional and physical reactions to ropes.

How to Work Through Shibari Emotions

During a Shibari session, the tied person experiences different strong emotions. These can also be hard to manage, especially if it is the first time experiencing Shibari.

Rope bondage works through affective relationships, which allow people to think of themselves outside of connection identity structures if they desire. The involved people can share affective sensations felt through embodied experience, directed both toward the rope and toward the other bodies. Affective bondages work better in shibari because both the rigger and the tied partner are more comfortable. In addition, they feel much more confidence if they have a relationship than people who do not have affective bondages.

Final Thoughts

Shibari is not about hurting someone or making them feel uncomfortable; all the contrary. The aim is to make them feel loved, cared for, and safe. When you perform shibari correctly, it is pure art. And those tied up become serene and beautiful.

As you can see, shibari is not about tying each other up in pretty knots. When you are tied up, the emotional connection you feel with your partner is intense. In turn, this shared moment will take you on a journey: you will learn a lot, and more in depth, about each other.

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