In the book “A Steampunk’s Guide to Sex”, KC Crowell contributes a chapter entitled “How to Deel with, and Not Be, a Creep”. In a few pages, she offers great advice. So, we’ve decided to quote extensively from her text, in order to avoid uncomfortable situations for our readers. KC Crowell studied journalism and philosophy…
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Normalization has become sort of a buzzword these days. Essentially, it means that something that used to be strange, unusual, or plain wrong, has now become widely accepted. Actually, people are seeing it as something ordinary. For example, videoconferences were a dream thirty years ago; now we all take classes via Zoom. Barely fifty years…
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The dictionary defines a taboo as something that is prohibited or restricted by social custom. In our era of tolerance and open-mindedness, it might seem like a totally outdated notion. And yet, as cancellation culture reminds us, there are still many taboos. Likewise, there are many puritans of all sorts. Since bondage is becoming more…
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The building of an identity is one of the main concerns in today’s society. Most people believe that everyone has the right to develop their own personality the way they want. How does Shibari come into the picture? Well, there’s a stronger relationship between Shibari and identity than you think. First of all, Shibari can…
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It’s not unusual for participants in a Shibari scene—especially tops—to reach a point of euphoria. Psychological literature defines it as a state of extreme happiness and an elevated sense of well-being. This, in itself, is not bad. Actually, we spend most of our lives striving to reach such a state. Feeling good and powerful, transcending…
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Nowadays, it is common to think of ourselves as limitless beings. We believe we can achieve any goal we set for ourselves. We see ourselves as unstoppable. However, there are physical and logical limits to what we can do. Moreover, each person works within a psychological frame, and this means that, for every activity we…
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Acceptance is not easy. We tend to believe that we accept ourselves, each other, and the world we live in. However, if we begin to question our relationship to ourselves, the others, and the environment we live in, we will see that things get complicated. Self-acceptance begins with the acceptance of your own body. This…
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People usually understand vulnerability as the possibility of being hurt or overpowered. So, for example, we say that a place is vulnerable when there are evident ways of trespassing. Likewise, we say of a person that they are vulnerable if we know their secrets or compromising information about them. Vulnerability, in its most basic sense,…
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As any practitioner knows, BDSM encompasses a whole range of practices. From latex to whipping, and from cosplay to spanking, there is something for everybody under the umbrella term of kink. Some of the practices find a wider acceptance, even by people with a decidedly vanilla lifestyle. Whereas others strive to become standard, and a…
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Shibari is a multi-layered experience. There’s the physical event of tying and being tied. Also, participants experience an emotional connection and a power dynamic among them. Anyone can see that there’s artistic value in any given scene. And, finally, there is also a spiritual dimension to the scene. In this article, we explore the relationship…
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