Shibari and Friendship

We usually think of Shibari as an erotic practice, and rightfully so. Few things are sexier than tying up your partner and experiencing first-hand the power dynamic between you. However, there is also room for Shibari and friendship. And this doesn’t mean using rope to take someone to the friend zone. Quite the opposite, bondage offers the opportunity to develop a different, but not less rewarding, kind of friendship.

Shibari among friends is obviously non-erotic. However, this doesn’t mean that it can’t be intimate. For friends who are really close to each other, bondage opens the possibility for a different kind of intimacy. It’s normal for close friends to share secrets and thoughts that, sometimes, they don’t even share with their partners. So, why wouldn’t they share a rope scene? For your next workshop, try taking a friend along with you, instead of your partner. And see what happens.

An interesting variation on the above is bringing along both your partner and a friend. By doing this, you can let your partner watch as your friend ties you (or the other way around). Watching another person interact with their partner can be very stimulating for some people. Voyeurism is a kink in itself, and one with a large following. So, why don’t you discuss with your partner how they would feel watching you play bottom or rigger for someone else? You might be surprised!

We live in an era of multiple relationships. So, why not taking more than one friend or partner to your next workshop? Sometimes, in polyamory relationships, sharing an experience among all participants can be quite satisfactory, not to mention that it increases the sense of being all together in one big relationship. Something like this is, of course, only advisable for those who know how to handle this kind of relationship.

As you can see, Shibari and friendship can be the source of interesting and pleasurable experiences.