Intimate Shibari

I didn’t want to play bottom. It sounded awful. For me, all this rope business sounded like a complicated manner of abuse. It even surprised me that George wanted to try it. If I had realized just how intimate Shibari is, none of this would have happened. And it might have been better that way.

I had never considered myself a kinky person. I don’t have sexual toys or handcuffs hidden in my closet. So, when George asked me to do Shibari, I doubted. He had been to an exhibition with a customer of the company, and he had been amazed by the sheer beauty of a woman in ropes, and the mastery of the man who tied her.

I said no. However, he still wanted to try it. So, he suggested that we could hire a professional bottom or a model. He would tie her and have the experience he was looking for. I would be there, watching. That way, we would share the moment. (And I could make sure that nothing else happened).

I was angry. The model turned out to be a twenty-something beauty. And George was very enthusiastic about the whole thing. Before five minutes had passed, he took off his shirt —he always enjoys showing off his muscles—. He was smiling and having a great time, while I was boring myself to death. But the worst was when he focused on the tying and completely forgot about me. 

Then, I understood. This wasn’t just senseless tying. There were emotions, communication, and even a subtle sensuality about it. This was ten times worse than having my husband flirt with the waitress. he was practically making love with his clothes on to that woman. I couldn’t stand it.

So, once she was tied, when George was sweating and catching his breath, I jumped over him and began ripping his clothes off. The rest is blurry, but I remember riding him like never before and screaming “He’s mine, bitch!” before losing myself into the greatest orgasm in our twelve years together.

Shibari isn’t just tying. It is emotion and connection. I learned that the hard way.

Now, from time to time, we give ourselves time for this intimate Shibari. And it couldn’t be more wonderful.

This is my Shibari story.