Keys for Great Aftercare

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Some people say that the quality of the aftercare is what separates rope gamers from true artists. If it’s so important, what are the keys to great aftercare? Here are some of them.

First of all, aftercare takes time. Think about what happens after you just had sex. Turning around and falling asleep in less than five minutes is a rude gesture, that your partner won’t appreciate. Something similar happens after a bondage scene. People need time to process what has happened. Moreover, they need time to come back, physically and emotionally, to the real world. And those are things you cannot do in five minutes or less. So, whenever you’re planning a scene, consider at least half an hour for the aftercare. And if you can devote a full hour to aftercare, that’d be great!

Another important aspect of aftercare is talking. Don’t just stand there. Say something! Some people are more talkative than others. However, if you really want to shine during aftercare, you better speak. You can talk about what you liked and what you didn’t like about the scene. You can also come to an agreement about which was the best part of the whole thing. A great tip is to discuss your emotions and how the bond with your partner strengthened during the scene. Putting the experience into words is very valuable for most people.

A health check is no fun. But it is a wise thing to do after a Shibari scene. Make sure that your partner doesn’t feel any pain. And if you notice a strange behavior, such as confusion or lack of coordination, take immediate action. This might be boring, even scary, but it sends a strong signal that you really care for your partner.

In conclusion, time, talk, and a health check are three keys to great aftercare. Put them into practice, and you can thank us later.