BDSM in general and bondage in particular carry the weight of an unfortunate misconception. Many people think that they are hostile to women. In their view, this kind of practices objectify and humiliate women. This, of course, is a gross misunderstanding. And it is upheld mostly by people who have never practiced any kind of…
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Can you combine Shibari and romance? In other words, can you and your partner plan and perform a bondage scene that is also a romantic statement? The answer is yes, it is possible. And we’ll tell you how. We have to begin by remembering that passion is the essence of romance. And passion means intensity.…
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Originally, “aesthetic” was a philosophical term with quite a complex meaning. However, many people are using it right now to refer to something that is beautiful, especially on social media. It is important to know this because some people praise a Shibari scene when they see it by saying that it looks aesthetic. In the…
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Body positivity is one of today’s buzzwords. It is part of a wider tendency toward acceptance of diversity. Now, since Shibari is evidently a physical activity, it is pertinent to ask if there is a relationship between body positivity and Shibari. And the short answer is yes. Shibari welcomes all kinds of bodies. Of course,…
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In the book “A Steampunk’s Guide to Sex”, KC Crowell contributes a chapter entitled “How to Deel with, and Not Be, a Creep”. In a few pages, she offers great advice. So, we’ve decided to quote extensively from her text, in order to avoid uncomfortable situations for our readers. KC Crowell studied journalism and philosophy…
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Normalization has become sort of a buzzword these days. Essentially, it means that something that used to be strange, unusual, or plain wrong, has now become widely accepted. Actually, people are seeing it as something ordinary. For example, videoconferences were a dream thirty years ago; now we all take classes via Zoom. Barely fifty years…
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The dictionary defines a taboo as something that is prohibited or restricted by social custom. In our era of tolerance and open-mindedness, it might seem like a totally outdated notion. And yet, as cancellation culture reminds us, there are still many taboos. Likewise, there are many puritans of all sorts. Since bondage is becoming more…
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The building of an identity is one of the main concerns in today’s society. Most people believe that everyone has the right to develop their own personality the way they want. How does Shibari come into the picture? Well, there’s a stronger relationship between Shibari and identity than you think. First of all, Shibari can…
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It’s not unusual for participants in a Shibari scene—especially tops—to reach a point of euphoria. Psychological literature defines it as a state of extreme happiness and an elevated sense of well-being. This, in itself, is not bad. Actually, we spend most of our lives striving to reach such a state. Feeling good and powerful, transcending…
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Nowadays, it is common to think of ourselves as limitless beings. We believe we can achieve any goal we set for ourselves. We see ourselves as unstoppable. However, there are physical and logical limits to what we can do. Moreover, each person works within a psychological frame, and this means that, for every activity we…
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