Mild to Extreme

As you know, BDSM is an umbrella term that includes a wide range of activities. We call these “practices,” and they can range from mild to extreme. So, for example, we would consider a lingerie fetish or a foot fetish a mild practice. After all, it only needs a piece of clothing or emphasizing an unusual body part. On the other hand, many people consider rope suspension or impact play extreme practices. This is due to the fact that they involve several resources and the development of specific skills. Not to mention, thorough negotiation and consent.

In the case of bondage, one of the mildest practices would be wrist-tying, which is something that even vanilla couples do. On the opposite side of the spectrum, mummification would be one of the most extreme forms of bondage. It requires a highly skilled rigger, an experienced bottom, and specialized resources working together to acoomplish it.

For those of you who like mild practices, there’s nothing wrong with that. You’re not less kinky because you happen to like less extreme practices. After all, kinkiness is a lifestyle. And as such, it is more a matter of attitude and values, than a question of how extreme you like to play. On the other hand, enjoying extreme practices doesn’t turn you into a pervert, provided, of course, that you act with responsibility, and paying attention to safety and the necessary consent among participants.

What is really important, though, is that you and your partner take the time to discuss and negotiate the kinds of practices you want to get involved in. BDSM includes too many different practices. Therefore, it will be wise to choose those that are most attractive to you. This can be done in a fun and easy way by using a sex menu, or simply by having an honest, constructive discussion among partners.

So, where do you place your preferences, from mild to extreme?