Sexuality is very important in everyone’s life. Sex is a relevant factor if you’re in a relationship: it is the perfect way to connect with your partner and where you can get pleasure. But sometimes, when you’re in a relationship, sex can turn boring or monotonous. Many people, to rejuvenate their sex life, are interested in trying new things, like kink. Here, we tell you how to introduce kink into your relationship since it can be difficult to approach your partner and tell them that you are interested in spicing things up.
Remove the kink stigma
Some people are reluctant to explore new things because they may feel overwhelmed or embarrassed, it is totally normal. But you shouldn’t feel that way! Kink is a perfectly healthy and safe form of sexual expression and pleasure. The first step to getting into it is to understand what kink is—you can read all about it in previous articles. The second step is talking about it with your partner, which will help you to remove any level of stigma that may surround you.
How to bring it up…
If you are afraid to bring the topic up with your partner, remember that your interests and preferences are always valid. Sometimes, it is intimidating to think about how to introduce kink into your relationship. So, speak from a place of vulnerability, it will make your partner empathetic. When you discuss it with them, it is important to be specific about what you are interested in. Remember everyone’s limits are different so be clear on what you want. It is also a good idea to use mental imagery as a way of approaching the subject, like “Wouldn’t it be fun for us to play with a little spanking?” It is the perfect segue into the kink conversation.
Once you shoot the question, you should prepare yourself for possible friction. Be sure and informed on what you’re talking about and you will find a way to negotiate with your partner. This is nothing to be ashamed of. It is more common than you think: every day more people spice up their sex life by introducing kink into their relationship.