Shibari and Detachment

Nowadays, detachment is fashionable as a strategy for a healthier, more meaningful way of life. Detachment is the creation of psychological distance between a person and something that causes them anxiety and stress. Even though psychologists consider emotional detachment as an unhealthy defense mechanism, other kinds of detachment, such as detachment from work or from possessions are part of a healthy attitude that can lead to a better lifestyle. Shibari and detachment can go together. Here we tell you how.

Shibari works as a barrier. When someone is tied, they cannot interact with the things around them. Obviously, they can communicate and interact with the person who is tying them. Everyone knows how important the emotional bond among the participants in a scene is. But, when it comes to things, a bottom cannot grab or use any of their belongings.

This separation from our belongings can work as a form of detachment therapy. For a person in this situation, it suddenly becomes clearer that things are just things. And that they can be quite futile when nobody’s using them. On the other hand, people are still there. They take care of you and talk to you. From this point of view, a Shibari scene is a demonstration of emotional bonds being stronger and more important than possessing things.

Shibari can also work as a tool for detachment for the daily problems of work. When a person is playing bottom, they cannot work, no matter how urgent their appointments and meetings might be. This is also a lesson on putting your own welfare above the requirements of whatever job you happen to do. 

As you can see, Shibari and detachment can play together for your own benefit. So, next time you get tied think about the things you’re getting detached from while you’re on the ropes. It might surprise you.