Feminism and Shibari

Many people think that feminism and Shibari are in opposition to each other. But this only because they have a serious misunderstanding of the essence and purpose of bondage. Shibari contributes in many ways to the empowerment of women.

First of all, Shibari contributes to the tearing down of gender stereotypes. A true rigger is not a macho, but a man who cares deeply for the welfare of his partner. Moreover, there are more female riggers every day, which goes to show that the active role of the top is not exclusively a woman’s role.

Second, consent is the basis of a healthy relationship, and it is mandatory when practicing bondage. Shibari and Kinbaku are part of a culture of consent, where people can freely establish the limits they feel comfortable with. A Shibari scene is a lesson in the importance of consent and negotiation for all participants.

Additionally, Shibari empowers the free exercise of sexuality. No one should feel guilty for being kink. If a person likes playing with ropes, that ought to be openly embraced and respected. What were once called “deviations” are now seen as part of a normal sexual “diversity”. Practicing Shibari enhances imagination and creativity beyond the limits of social conventions and prejudice.

Shibari, even in the passive role, empowers women. The power dynamic behind BDSM has been thoroughly studied. And experts now agree that, even if the rigger physically submits the bottom to their will, psychologically the power dynamic works the other way around. It is the bottom who, in reality, submits the rigger into putting their welfare above any other consideration.

In conclusion, feminism ought to see Shibari under a different light, free from the misunderstandings and prejudices about BDSM and kink. Understanding the empowerment offered by ropes is very important in a time where more and more people are embracing a kink sexuality.