Shibari and Safety

Shibari and Safety

My husband is an engineer. Actually, we met when we worked for the same construction company. Now we have our own business. He is in charge of the construction site, while I handle all the paperwork and the finances of the business. After years of hard work, stress, and perseverance, things are paying off. Little did I know we were about to find the relation between Shibari and safety.

He is a builder on and off the office. He likes creating things he first sees in his mind, and then builds with his hands. And he’s still a strong man. 

During lockdown, business was slow and so, for the first time in years, we had time available for ourselves. Not just to fall exhausted on bed one beside the other, but to really talk and reconnect with each other. I found out about Shibari and told him about it. At first, he wasn’t sure. It sounded like some sort of weird Japanese mania. However, when I told him about the equipment and the ropes necessary for a scene, I caught his attention. He saw suspension as an engineering challenge and started working on it in a warehouse we hadn’t used for months.

In all his projects, safety is his pride, and this was no exception. He promised me I wouldn’t get hurt, in the same way he promises his clients that their buildings will be functional and safe. He even made blueprints and calculations, just to make sure everything was okay. It was like bringing the best part from work to the bedroom. Shibari and safety go together, and so does fun.

When we did our first scene, it was a wonderful experience for both of us. He took pictures and video, just like he does with the construction sites. I just hope he doesn’t show them to his friends, like he does with the ones that are business-related.

We are already planning our next scene, and we’re both very enthusiastic about it.