Shibari and Sexual Tension

It happened when we were kids. it’s not unusual, actually. You would be amazed at how many people discovered their taste for bondage at an early age. Mike was 14 and I was 12. We saw a “bad guy” in some silly cartoon tying the hero and we decided we should try it out. We got two belts and some neckties from my dad —we were at my house— and Mike did the best he could to restrain me. Then, we set a timer for ten minutes in one of our cell phones, and I made an effort to escape. Little did I know that game was going to be the first case of Shibari and sexual tension I was going to experience.

You see, I couldn’t set myself free, but, by the time we finished, we were both sweaty and breathing heavily. As he untied me, I felt what must have been the first genuine arousal in my life, and I could tell something similar happened to Mike. We kissed, at first softly, then more urgently. I’m not sure what else could have happened if my parents hadn’t arrived. What I do know is that from that day on there has been a very strong sexual tension between Mike and me.

Today

Now, a curious thing is that we have never been a couple, a formal couple, that is. Actually, we like to introduce our partners to each other. I guess that this strong, ever present sexual tension between us is more satisfactory than the pleasure we could get from letting it go and jumping into bed together. I don’t know, it’s just a guess. It is true, however, that we haven’t shared bondage with any other person.

After that first experience at my house, we did some research on the Internet about bondage, and that’s when we discovered Shibari. We secretly bought ropes and attended workshops. And, every once in a while, we escape to a hotel and do a scene together. Now, you might not believe that a man and a woman in their twenties can spend an afternoon, alone in a hotel, doing something as sensual as bondage, and not giving up to sex. I realize how hard it is to believe. But that’s the truth.

You see, tension is one of the key elements of Shibari, and I’m not just talking about the ropes. Shibari and sexual tension go together. Handling and increasing that tension provides a pleasure beyond what you can imagine. At least, for us.

This is our Shibari story.