How to control the Emotions in Shibari

Shibari is a bondage practice. Therefore, it is good to know how to control emotions in Shibari, since it can be stressing for some people.

There are many people with great skills and talents. However, although technique is very important, it is not everything you need for a succesful Shibari scene. Emotions play an important role, as well. When you practice Shibari or Kinbaku, you enter an exploration into the unknown within yourself and your partner. This will lead you to discover inner feelings which you have never experienced before. Both participants, rigger and bottom, experience a strong physical and emotional interaction during the scene.

In Shibari, there is no place for showing off, since the emotional and physical risks are high. Consequently, awareness and emotional management are very important. A good rigger is a person who knows himself and holds emotional management, apart from the technical details that the practice requires.

In Shibari or Kinbaku, you will experience different feelings and emotions, either as a rigger or as a bottom. During the scene, you will encounter “good” or “bad” feelings which you will need to embrace and control. You will need to take the positive and negative parts of your feelings and emotions and communicate them to your partner, you need to talk if you would like to avoid them for the next scene or evaluate if these feelings will lead you to unknown pleasant discoveries.

Emotions play an important role in a scene, you need to be aware of them and control them, if you are feeling good about something express it to your partner, but stay calm. Remember that when you don’t control your emotions, they will affect you. And so, things become complicated.

Now you know how to control emotions in Shibari.

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