When to Take Private Lessons

Open workshops and group classes are usually the best options for people trying to learn Shibari. However, they are not the only options available. For some bondage enthusiasts, it might be better to hire a personal instructor. In this article, we talk about when to take private lessons.

First of all, if your goal is too specific, then you should hire a private instructor. For example, let’s suppose that you’re preparing a surprise gift for your partner. Let’s also assume that you have a very specific scene in mind, one that is meaningful to both of you, but which deviates from the usual bondage scene. In this case, if you take regular classes, you might end up being unable to transfer that knowledge to your scene. It’s not that the course is not good. It’s just that you want to do something too singular.

In that case, you should look for a private instructor. Then, you can discuss at length what you want to accomplish. This will allow both of you to focus on that specific task.

Another important reason to take private lessons is discretion. We all hear every day that we live in a diverse world and all that stuff. Nevertheless, we still see acts of discrimination every day. For some people, taking public lessons of bondage might cause familiar or professional problems. In these cases, it is best to hire private help, and keep things discreet.

It might sound extreme, but not all social environments are open-minded. For example, last year we heard the story of a banking executive who had to hide his rope games because they could threaten his career. It might not be fair, but the real world usually isn’t fair.

So, whether it is a birthday surprise or an intimate activity, if you’re planning your next scene, think about whether it might be best to keep things private.