Shibari and Polyamory

Why not? It sounded like a great idea. I mean, I have always thought that monogamy is something society has forced upon us. And if we still comply with it, it is mostly because the law forces us to do it. I’d bet my right hand that, if people were free to choose, eight out of ten would be in a polyamorous relationship. And they would be happy. As for me, I am twice as happy since I’ve been able to combine Shibari and polyamory. Let me tell you my story.

Ingrid and I have had an open relationship since the beginning. That way, we didn’t need to lie or hide. We just said, “Last night, I slept with someone else,” and that was it. 

We have also shared bondage since we started dating. After all, we met at a Shibari workshop. We always do our scenes together, and I guess that led to routine. And you know what routine does—it kills everything in its way.

And then we met a couple of Shibari performers: Diane and Ulrich. I immediately felt attracted to Diane, and the same happened to Ingrid with Ulrich. Now, I don’t think it’s a coincidence. I guess we were both looking for something, and that was polyamory, without us knowing it.

The point is that, instead of just flirting and seeing what happened, we decided to say things up front with them. Now, it’s not easy to tell another man that you desire his wife, nor is it easy to admit that you wouldn’t have any problems with him being with your partner of six years.

And that’s when inspiration hit us. We agreed to start our polyamorous relationship through bondage. Now, exchanging rope partners might sound like no big deal for people who haven’t tried it, but any Shibari enthusiast knows how intimate the top-bottom relationship is.

It’s been a year now. And we’re a happy, polyamorous, permanent foursome.

Would you dare try Shibari and polyamory?