The Boring Parts of Shibari

Any activity has a boring side to it. Driving is exciting, whereas mechanics are boring. Sports are great, but you have to spend many hours in the gym to be at the top level. For some people, these boring aspects ruin the whole experience. However, it is actually the commitment to the difficult, unattractive side of a practice that distinguishes the professional from the mere amateur. Talking about bondage, what are the boring parts of Shibari? Let’s find out.

Shibari demands planning. For people who value spontaneity and improvisation, this might look like a serious setback. Shibari is not something that you jump into whenever you feel like it. Quite the opposite, before the actual scene, you will have to sit down with your partner and discuss it thoroughly. Also, you need to gather all necessary resources for it. This need for planning, however, pays off when you can achieve extraordinary results, which would not be possible with mere improvisation. Yes, Shibari needs planning, but it pays off handsomely.

Shibari also requires safety. For some people, taking your time to think about how you would react in case of an emergency sounds as unexciting as an appointment with the dentist. And yet, no responsible bondage practitioner, worthy of that name, would step into a scene without being sure that safety measures are enough, and that every participant knows what to do in case of an emergency.

Finally, Shibari also calls for a long period of aftercare. A long hug might taste like paradise for many people. However, for action-oriented people, it might seem like a complete waste of time. As boring as they might find it, they must remember that no bondage experience is complete without a long period of aftercare, in which participants can “come back to Earth” and drain whatever emotional debris the scene has left on them.

How about you? What are the most boring parts of Shibari, in your opinion?