BDSM in the Family

Most people wouldn’t think of BDSM as something to do together as a family. Usually, people try more ordinary activities, such as fishing, camping, or having a backyard barbecue. So, why talk about BDSM in the family? Because times are changing, and what we considered impossible yesterday is now possible.

Doing something outside of the family’s orbit has the attraction of the forbidden. For people addicted to risk, this might be a powerful motivation. Likewise, doing something apart from the family provides the person with a sense of independence and self-sufficiency.

However, it also has disadvantages. A person who can’t share their passion for an alternative lifestyle might feel rejected or humiliated. Also, personal safety becomes compromised, since the person has to deal with strangers, and may not be willing to ask their family for help, even if something goes wrong.

How, then, can we balance both things? First of all, a person should find acceptance within their family circle. This, of course, is not a matter of five minutes. It takes a lot of communication and good will to achieve genuine mutual acceptance among members of a family.

Secondly, the family should provide a structure of support. As any bondage enthusiast knows, rope scenes are particularly risky. And if a participant knows that they can count on their family in case of an emergency, that makes things a lot easier.

And talking about safety, no one is more interested in a participant’s safety than their own family. Therefore, it is a good decision to get involved in order to preserve the wellbeing of the relative, and of all the other participants.

Finally, family BDSM is something that can actually turn out to be quite fun. We’re used to more conventional activities together, but there is no good reason why BDSM practices, at least some of them, cannot be a family matter, provided the proper context.

What do you think about BDSM in the family? Would you try it?