Let’s get things straight. Point number one: everybody has a fantasy. They either want to dominate or be dominated. I know there are all possible combinations nowadays, but I’m a traditional woman, so I like taking the submissive role. Point number two: at one point or another, everyone likes it rough. Don’t get me wrong.…
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Sebastian Melmoth, a member of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted a series of questions about insecure dominants. This must be a sensible topic for many people, for there were 147 comments, way more than for most of the other posts. The BDSM community frequently discusses the topic of vulnerability. However, they are not…
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Yeshua Avraham, a member of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this double question: “What is your concept of a master? What is your concept of a slave?.” There were a dozen answers, which indicates this is an important topic for people involved in a power dynamic. Master and slave, as well as the…
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CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) is the current fad in BDSM. It is a form of agreeing to disagree. In other words, partners agree to act as if they were engaging in forced activity. It is important to notice that CNC is not breaching consent. It is more of a roleplaying game in which you play a…
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Being the dominant partner comes with many risks, and one of the most serious ones is what psychologists call “power intoxication.” This term refers to an unhealthy psychological state in which a person loses control over their dominant role and becomes reckless and harmful to their partner(s). Power intoxication is a euphoric state that comes…
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There is a strong psychological dimension of Shibari. Any bondage enthusiast knows, from firsthand experience, about the emotional connection and the power dynamic involved in a scene. However, there is a less explored psychological aspect of Shibari; actually two. Impulsion, compulsion, and Shibari are related to each other. Read the article to find out how.…
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For some people, “domination” alludes to leather, spanking and restraint. For others, especially those whose only contact with kink has been “Fifty Shades”, it implies a psychological, almost supernatural power, over someone else’s will. Even though both are partially true, they don’t exhaust the meaning of domination. To make things clearer, in this article we…
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The Oxford Dictionary defines “restraint” as “keeping someone under control or within limits”. As you can deduct, it is obvious from the start that there is a strong relation between restraint and domination. However, strong doesn’t mean simple. Read the article and join us. We will explore the dynamic among restraint as the essence of…
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