The Psychology of Bondage
The psychology of bondage is both complex and fascinating. The first question could be why people do bondage and what exactly do they get from it? Well, Shibari has different aspects that are enjoyable, but not everyone is looking or getting the same things from bondage. As individuals, we react differently and have different expectations in the activities we practice.
I will list the most common things, regarding psychology that bondage provides to the practitioners. First, Bondage alters the balance of power. This allows new horizons of tactile, emotional, sensual and imaginative possibilities, in which you will find unique and powerful experiences.
Shibari redeems guilt, which most people experience in relation to sex or to certain acts which are considered inappropiate. However, bondage can erase the guilt of this kind of thoughts by removing social restraints. You can experience intense freedom through Shibari, as well as a feeling of security. The ropes hug your body providing a feeling of confidence, security and comfort.
Shibari can also be a tool for meditation and relaxation. This is because it gives you time to connect with yourself and with your partner, to relax and to even synchronize the breathing. Depending on the purpose of your scene, you can experience the connection between dom and sub and encounter a very relaxing and de-stressing practice.
In Shibari, the main purpose is restraint and aesthetics, and not necessarily sex. The feelings, thoughts and experiences you get from shibari depend on what you and your bondage partner are looking for, but there are many positive reasons why Shibari will awake some feelings, and sensations that will help you grow in different aspects of your life. Shibari gives you confidence, trust, communication, self-love, acceptance and many other positive experiences.
Now you know about the psychology of bondage.