How to be a good Dominant in Shibari

Shibari is a BDSM practice in which 2 people, a rigger and a bunny play the dominance and submission roles. Dominance and submission is a consensual and negotiated relationship, where each party deliberately undertakes a particular role. The dominant usually leads the scene and is the driving force and the director. The submissive, on the other hand, is the one who obeys and is restrained by ropes. If you’re playing dominant, it is important to learn how to be a good dominant in Shibari.

In order to be a good dominant, you need to provide direction for the benefit of your bottom and yourself. This means you should have good communication prior to the scene in order to know what you’re both looking for. Remember that taking the dominant role does not mean that you can do whatever you want. Always take into account that in the scene there are two participants and both need to enjoy what is happening.

Although there are many submissive people, not all of them think the same as you do, so do not try to Dom them all. Everyone has its idea of what a good Dom is, so find a Sub that is compatible with your thoughts and ideas, or if you differ with them in something, try to learn how to be a good dominant with that person. Remember you need to adapt with your Subs in order to be a good Dom.

Being a good Dominant is not simple, you need to learn a lot of things, and have different skills as well as taking responsibility for the scene. In Shibari, the Dom leads the scene and will be in charge of all the tying, so you just need to know basic anatomy and some expertise in bondage or Shibari.

Now you know how to be a good dominant in Shibari.

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