Shibari and Self-Control

We live in a world which is always in a hurry. We’re always trying to save time, even if this means doing things in a rush. This obsession with doing things fast leads to many health problems, as well as to psychological issues, such as anxiety. Among its many benefits, Shibari can act as an antidote against this mental deformation. That’s why it is important to talk about Shibari and self-control.

Shibari takes time. If you’re going to do it properly, you can’t do it quickly. You need time to design the scene, to get the required materials and tools, and to set the scene. Likewise, tying takes time, if it is to be done carefully. It takes time to develop an emotional connection between top and bottom. The contemplation of the finished scene is not something you can rush. Finally, the aftercare part of the session also requires enough time for participants to process what just happened, and physically recover from the effort involved in the scene.

This need for time might actually drive away some people from practicing Shibari. Most probably, they will look for other, more immediate activities. They just can’t escape from the mindset of always being in a hurry.

However, other people —and many practitioners will tell you this— will feel drawn to Shibari especially because it works under a no-rush paradigm. Shibari teaches you to forget about time and, instead, focus on doing things right, enjoying them, and understanding their whole meaning. It is also a school of perseverance, attention to detail, and a commitment to safety.

Shibari is a school of slowness, which we desperately need in a world in which people are always rushing to wherever they go, even if it is not important.

Now you know everything you need about Shibari and self-control.