Gender Equality in Ropes
Rethinking Roles in Shibari
Shibari is often seen through a traditional lens. One person ties. The other is tied. One leads. The other follows. It’s easy to assume these roles reflect gender—usually, a man tying a woman.
But that’s only part of the picture.
The world of Shibari is far more diverse than those assumptions suggest. And the conversation around gender equality in ropes is more relevant than ever.
- Gender Assumptions in Bondage
- Shibari Is Not Limited by Gender
- Visibility Makes a Difference
- Highlight: Bound Documentary
- A More Open Future
Gender Assumptions in Bondage
In many cultures, language reflects bias. We say “doctor” and “female doctor,” assuming the default is male. The same happens in bondage. We hear “female rigger” but rarely “male rigger.”
This isn’t just about words—it reflects what we see.
In videos, photos, and performances, the most common dynamic is male riggers and female bottoms. Most events and workshops follow this pattern too.
But this view doesn’t reflect the full story.
Shibari Is Not Limited by Gender
A rigger is someone who ties. A bottom is someone who is tied. Neither of those roles is defined by gender.
In the global rope community, you’ll find:
- Women who rig
- Men who enjoy being tied
- Non-binary folks who switch between roles
- Trans individuals practicing freely and authentically
- People with physical disabilities adapting rope to their needs
Rope is a tool. The energy, care, and connection come from the people using it—not from their gender.
Visibility Makes a Difference
Representation matters. When we only see one type of dynamic, we limit what others believe is possible.
That’s why visibility is so important. It helps create safer, more welcoming spaces for everyone who’s curious about rope.
Many respected riggers today are women, trans, and non-binary practitioners. They teach, perform, and create. Their work expands what Shibari can be—and who it’s for.
Inclusive events, gender-neutral language, and open role dynamics are becoming more common. Some workshops now encourage switching roles. Others focus on adaptability and mutual exploration.
Highlight: Bound Documentary
The documentary Bound—directed by Léa Luiz de Oliveira and produced by Totem Films—captures this shift in action. It follows women in Japan who practice Shibari as riggers, not just as models or muses.
The film shows how these women reclaim power through rope. It highlights the emotional, creative, and spiritual aspects of tying—and reminds us that dominance and submission are not limited by gender.
A More Open Future
Shibari is an evolving art. It doesn’t belong to one narrative, one body, or one tradition. Its strength lies in intention, trust, and connection.
Gender equality in ropes isn’t just about balance—it’s about freedom. The freedom to explore, express, and connect in a way that feels true for you.
Rope is for everyone.
