Three Major Negotiations in Shibari

If you are interested in rope bondage, a good starting point is to learn about the three major negotiations in shibari. To begin with, before doing anything with someone else, you need to take your time and discuss mutual expectations. In addition, you must alway focus on consent.

It is very important for both partners to be in the same mindset. Either if you are a dominant or a submissive, you must have clarity in your desires. Both elements must know what they want and what they do not. The goal is to avoid experiencing something completely different of what you had in mind for the interaction.

Three Major Negotiations in Shibari: Learn the Risks

In shibari and any other BDSM activity, negotiation is crucial. All rope bondage involves risks. And the risk gets higher depending on the type and intensity of the interaction. Remember both parties are responsible for what you are doing. Both should aim at building the knowledge and skills to prepare the type of interaction intended.

We have already talked about consent negotiation, so I do not want to repeat the same. I would just like to enlist the three major areas of negotiation. These you must not forget.

One: Health Conditions and Injuries

Firstly, it is very indispensible to share with your partner all physical and mental conditions worth noticing. For example, talk about your recent injuries, medical care, drug use, alcohol, medications, circulation issues, and emotional concerns. In this sense, triggers are something for both to have in mind. Knowing the full picture will keep the two parties safe. When you are aware of previous injuries or health conditions, you can perform the scene and avoid unnecessary complications.

Two: What Happens if There is a Problem in the Scene?

Secondly, you should know what to do if something unexpected and unwanted happens during the scene. Depending on the type of interaction with your partner, you may need to establish specific methods of communications. This is particularly relevant if a problem occurs in the interaction. The most common protocol is to determine a safe word. The rigger must consider the potential what ifs during any given scene in order to avoid the using it.

Regardless, remember that it is not all on the rigger. Communication is a two-way street and both partners should act accordingly.

Three: Acceptable Dynamic and Sexual Intimacy

Thirdly, establish the acceptable type of dynamic you will face. Also, discuss the amount of sexual intimacy you will be sharing. As you might be aware of, shibari is not only about sex. Sometimes you just want to be tied or to tie someone and do not expect any sexual interaction.