The Value of Experience in Shibari

When we hear from a pilot that they have many previous hours of actual flying, we feel more confident about them. The same happens in bondage. We can never praise too much the value of experience in Shibari. It doesn’t matter how many tutorials you’ve seen on the web, or how many workshops you’ve taken, there’s nothing like the real experience of doing a scene.

To begin with, having done many scenes means you have faced many problems. These can range from the easiest to solve to the most difficult emergencies. It’s not that bondage enthusiasts don’t care about mistakes and accidents. Quite the opposite, bondage practitioners have a strong sense of safety. But even the most well-planned scene can come up with an inconvenience.

Shibari is one of those activities that adults are better suited to deal with than young people. This is due to the fact that one of the hallmarks of youth is impulsivity, whereas adults tend to be more cautious. Of course, you will always find reckless people, even among old people. But the general rule is for people to become wiser as they grow up.

Likewise, experienced practitioners tend to pay more attention to their partners. The welfare of the other participants has top priority, even over the aesthetic beauty and the sensuality of the scene. This is good news because, in the end, Shibari, just like any other BDSM practice, is all about the persons involved.

The choice of safety over excitement is clear for those who have done their share of knots and scenes. You can never play too safe, and experienced practitioners know it.

All we’ve said doesn’t mean that young people cannot practice Shibari responsibly. Actually, bondage is open to people of all ages and tastes. The point is that experience gives you the kind of insight that no previous study, no matter how thorough, can provide.

What do you think about the value of experience in Shibari?