Negotiation before Bondage

Negotiation before bondage is a essential part of the process, which participants should not bypass. Negotiation is a very important step in every sexual or BDSM practice.

When you negotiate with someone, keep in mind what you would like to experience, it is important to be very specific, express what turns you on and what turns you off. Although every case is different, here is a list of important things you should remember to include in the negotiation.

-Special names for the scene.
– Choose the safe words, it is important to use one safeword to slow down things and another one to STOP, it is also important to establish a signal in case you can’t talk, you at least can use the signal to slow down or stop the scene. It is also important to establish that STOP is STOP, no matter if there was a safe word specifically for that.
-List any health issues or conditions you may have, as well as medications you are taking. Likewise, tell the rigger when you had your last meal. Mention if you are properly hydrated. Any triggers you should be aware of and who to notify in case of emergency.
– Pain: it is important to talk about the attitude towards receiving pain if you enjoy it or not.-List what you want and what you don’t want in the scene (spanking, blindfolds, ice, gags, etc)
– Determine the roles and if others can participate?- How long can or will the scene last?-What type of scene do you like? (sensation play, animal play, D/s)
– Something very important is to determine the level of sexual interaction, what is allowed and what is not allowed?
-Aftercare.

And most important, specify your limits and boundaries. It is important to be very specific in everything you negotiate and remember consent is the basis of every successful relationship. Remember, negotiation before bondage is non-negotiable.

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