Bottom-friendly Shibari

Let me start by saying that most riggers are professional, committed, and, very frequently, kind. However, as in any profession, there are those who are abusive, rude, or even violent. I began doing Shibari a decade ago, and in my long career as a model, I have found enough examples of both kinds. Little did I know I would end up developing my own personal style: bottom-friendly Shibari.

When the rigger is good, on the one hand, a scene becomes a wonderful experience. You rediscover your body, become totally involved in the development of the scene, and enjoy an intense emotional exchange with the people with whom you’re working. On the other hand, a bad rigger hurts you, makes you feel uncomfortable and humiliated, and you want the whole thing to end as soon as possible.

That’s why I decided to become a rigger and develop my own Shibari style, one that would be bottom-friendly, above anything else. I took my lessons and practiced. More importantly, every step of the way I asked myself how I could apply this knowledge in a bottom-friendly manner.

I developed the principles of my style and designed a few scenes. Then, I rented a studio to make my ideas come true. Finally, the time came to hire models. All the way through I kept my conviction of putting the bottom’s welfare and joy above anything else. Some people were amazed at what I was doing, but I knew exactly what I wanted to achieve.

When the time came for my first scene, my bottom ended up crying. She said no one had ever been so kind and respectful toward her. The experience with me had made her feel accepted and cared for. And, in the end, she had felt herself flooded with a loving feeling, instead of used and abused.

Now, I am teaching my style of bottom-friendly Shibari to other riggers. I hope to improve the experiences of thousands of bottoms. It’s a dream—but, hey, it all starts with a dream.

This is my Shibari story.