Failed to Understand His Kinky Partner

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I won’t say my name because it’s not important. I am more or less an average person, just like most of you. That is, I work hard, I try to be kind. I appreciate honest people and those who prefer dialogue over fighting. As I said, nothing too important. What is important, though, is that I tell you my story. The story of how a man failed to understand his kinky partner, and lost her for good. Please, pay attention.

My marriage lasted twelve years. Then, after my divorce, I was single for a couple of years. It was last year when I met Deborah, and I knew I would end up marrying her. We made a great couple together. And all my friends agreed that we would be happy once we joined our lives in marriage.

She wanted to be totally honest with me. So, before the wedding, she told me about her kinky lifestyle, and how much she loved bondage. That’s when I made my first mistake: I didn’t listen to her. Instead of paying attention to what she was saying to me, I stubbornly stuck to my prejudices and my stereotypes about kinky people.

She wasn’t discouraged. So, she brought up the subject again from time to time. But I always refused to talk about it. That was my second mistake. Had we discussed the matter, we would have eventually reached an agreement. But it was too hard for me to deal with something I didn’t quite understand. And so, I kept silent.

Now, she’s gone. I can’t blame her for having enough of waiting for me to reach out and talk to her. I don’t blame her.

It’s too late for me, but not for you. Pay attention to the story of the man who failed to understand his kinky partner, and avoid the mistakes that sank my marriage.

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