Unexpected Lesson

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I didn’t know what Shibari was until I met Sally. She’s a great person, and I’m glad we are together. We began dating, and, before you knew it, we were a couple in the true sense of the word. She never hid from me that she was kinky. On the contrary, on our first date, she said something about her “unusual tastes” and her tendency towards an alternative way of life. So, I was prepared to try things I had never done before. What I wasn’t ready for was the unexpected lesson I learned thanks to Shibari.

From the whole range of BDSM practices, bondage is Sally’s favorite. She likes to play bottom, and, as you can imagine, that means we need a top. Now, I have never tied someone up, much less with artistry or as an intimate practice. So, I had to take a workshop for absolute beginners, and start from there to build myself up as a rigger.

I didn’t want to disappoint Sally, so I did my best in every lesson and every knot. I had finally found a woman who truly understood me. And I didn’t want to ruin it just because I wasn’t able to do some knots. I practiced a lot, I pushed my limits, and I did everything I could to become a skilled rigger as soon as I could.

And it happened. I became a rigger in a relatively short time. There are no shortcuts in bondage. And I’d lie if I said it was all a matter of weeks. It took me months before I felt confident enough to ask Sally to play bottom for me. And it was a year before we could do a genuine bondage scene together.

It gave me an unexpected lesson: if you try hard enough, you will achieve things you didn’t even imagine you could do. I know that for some people, this is obvious. But it wasn’t for me, until I experienced it firsthand.

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