Feelings and Emotions in Shibari

Shibari or Kinbaku sessions are known as power exchange sessions through the use of rope. In Shibari, the rigger builds the scene based on what the person tied inspires and suggests through emotional and physical reactions to ropes. Feelings and emotions in a Shibari session vary greatly. Here, we tell you a bit about what riggers and bottoms experience.

The Bottom & the Rigger

During a scene, the bottom usually feels stronger emotions. Remember, being tied can be difficult to manage initially—especially if it is the first time doing it. That is why the riggers’ role is very important. The connection between you and your partner must be strong, so whoever is the bottom can rely on the rigger. The rigger, in turn, has to take care of the psychophysical balance of their partner during a scene. 

Ropes can be liberating

For some, being forced and immobilized can turn into a true liberation. The pressure of ropes on skin and body when you are bound produces a strong release of endorphins. As a result, you can feel a great sense of relaxation which can be compared to a very intense massage. 

What does a bottom feel?

Feelings and emotions in Shibari can vary between people: what feels good to one, might feel wrong to another. In addition, the positions and pressures inflicted by the ropes are not always easy to manage—they can be painful. Also, the stimulation through ropes can trigger physical reactions: the sensation of the rope caressing your body with intensity and passion may cause you to experience the “rope space.” What is that? Well, it is a state of close trance, in which the body and mind are completely in a state of abandon. 

What does the rigger feel?

In the case of the the rigger, emotions and feelings are different, too. He or she experience power and domination. But a great sense of responsibility and awareness during the session, too. They can feel gratification and satisfaction for creating the scene, and because of the connection to the bottom and the bond shared between them. 

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