A dominant person, in one of the most common BDSM misconceptions, is someone who is loud and brash. However, this is a stereotype that we should challenge in order to attain a more accurate, better view of what a dominant person is. Dominance should be more related to good leadership. And good leadership involves skill,…
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Wabi-Sabi is an aesthetic concept, which provides a measure of how distant Western and Eastern thought can sometimes be. While Western thought considers symmetry, proportion, and, above all, perfection, as the essential ingredients of beauty, Wabi-Sabi is an appreciation of beauty that is imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. Wabi-Sabi is very important in Shibari and Bondage.…
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Wari is an intuition of the most appropriate element for a specific situation in a bondage scene. As Kinbaku master Nureki says: “So many women, so many ways of Kinbaku”. This means that a rigger should never act unimaginatively, according to a formula. Rather, he must look for the one most appropriate element to include…
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Chokyo originally meant the training of an animal. Since it involves punishment, it should be understood in the sense of the metaphorical breaking of an animal. That is, the breaking of its will. We can think of chokyo as the reason behind a beast used for farming purposes not making an effort to break free.…
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Japanese rope bondage started with Hojojutsu, which is a military form of torture, humiliation, and restraint. Hojojutsu evolved into Shibari, which is the art of rope bondage for aesthetic purposes. Kinbaku, on the other hand, is more directly connected to sexuality, although it doesn’t always end up with sexual intercourse. In any case, it can…
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