BDSM is not violent or abusive

There are a lot of misconceptions about BDSM. One of them is that it is only about sex. The truth is that sometimes there is not even sex involved in a BDSM practice, and it is not as vital as some people think it is. BDSM consists on different activities that are practiced in different ways depending on people’s preferences. Which is why we want to dispel prejudices and say loud and clear: BDSM is not violent or abusive.

What does BDSM mean?

The acronym stands for Bondage & Disciplines, dominance & submission, and sadism & masochism. However, that does not mean that practicing BDSM includes all of these terms. You can do what you enjoy…or simply choose only one or two of the terms involved in BDSM.

Repeat after me: BDSM is not violent or abusive

One of the most common and frustrating misconceptions about BDSM is that practitioners come from an abusive or violent background. On the contrary, engaging in BDSM does not mean that you enjoy abuse or being abused. Instead, it is just one facet of someone’s sexuality and lifestyle. In reality, BDSMers are just as stable as people who prefer vanilla sex. It’s definitely easier for people to get into BDSM if they don’t have a history of abuse. BDSM practitioners are regular people who have a need to explore and enjoy different things in their intimate relations. Usually, BDSMers know what they want or want to try something different. And, they are deeply aware of their boundaries.

It’s not all about whips and chains

Many people think that BDMS is all about whips and chains. Although some enthusiasts may have them in their arsenal, not every BDSMer enjoys it or actually practices it. Some people like the “sensual dominance” which is a scene with toys or play but without pain involved. BDSM does not have to follow any pattern or model. It is never straightforward. You can practice it in different environments, and define it depending on what you are looking for.