Steps in a Shibari Scene – Untying

There are five steps in a Shibari scene – Untying is the fourth one. Don’t untie quickly. Take your time. Don’t destroy what you’ve done. Let it go.

Some riggers don’t give importance to untying. That’s a mistake. The fact that untying is easier than tying doesn’t mean that it is less important. Life has a rhythm, and just like night follows day, and then it’s night again, untying is the necessary complement of tying. By paying as much attention to untying as you paid to tying, you acknowledge that Shibari also has a rhythm.

You should also untie carefully and slowly. This will make your bottom feel more comfortable than if you rush the untying. Remember that your bottom is embraced by rope, and embraces shall not be broken. 

Untying is also the moment of gradually coming back to reality. You have taken your bottom out of this world, maybe to a different level of conscience. Now is the time to bring them back. Do it carefully and gently. They will appreciate it.

Don’t make a mess when untying. Try to keep your scene as tidy and as orderly as when you were tying. This will prevent any piece of equipment from getting lost. Moreover, don’t damage your ropes. Make sure to untie the knots without compromising the integrity of the ropes.

Pay attention to your bottom. Clumsiness and a little dizziness are normal. However, if you notice that your bottom lacks coordination, has difficulty breathing, or any other emergency sign, do not hesitate to call an emergency and look for help.

Show gratitude to your bottom and don’t take all the credit for what just happened. Shibari is rarely an individual accomplishment. And it is important that you acknowledge to whom you are indebted, especially when you have just succeeded.

Of all the steps in a Shibari scene – untying is also important.