How to Initiate Someone in Shibari

Even though kink becomes more popular every day, there are still many misconceptions around it. In the case of rope bondage, it is common for uninformed people to confuse it with a thinly disguised form of abuse. Now, any rope enthusiast knows that’s not the case. However, since there’s so much misinformation around bondage, you should give some thought to how to initiate someone in Shibari. And this is more important if you’re planning to invite someone to share your taste for bondage.

First of all, you must determine if the person is open to kink. Remember, there’s nothing wrong with vanilla. And some people might not just get it when it comes to think. On the other hand, there are many people who might be kink, but have never tried it. And they need some sort of eye-opener to realize that they might like unconventional behavior. For example, if you’re wondering whether you should ask your partner for bondage, try adding some restraint in your next interaction. You don’t even have to use a rope. You can just submit them with your arms and see how they react. Additionally, you can discuss their opinion about kink in general, and about bondage in particular.

Another way of finding out if your partner may be willing to try bondage is to ask them about their fantasies. If what they tell you is all about flower and pink ponies, bondage might not be appealing to them. On the other hand, if their fantasies involve restraint, an intense power dynamic, and a willingness to experience the unconventional, then bondage might be the best option.

In the end, it all comes to two things: sincerity and consent. Be honest with your partner when describing bondage, and make sure they are willing to try it. If there is the slightest doubt about their consent, that is, if you suspect they’re only agreeing because they don’t want you to get upset, you should not try bondage. At least, not for the moment.

Now you know how to initiate someone in Shibari.