First Time Doing Shibari

The other day, my friends and I were talking about our first time doing Shibari. For some, their first time with ropes was equivalent to the time when they lost their virginity; for others, it was barely a special day. Dave, for example, had already tried half a dozen other kinks before Shibari. So, for him, it was just a “what else do you have on the menu?” kind of day. Kyla, on the other hand, had her first time with a world-famous Kinbakushi. Her boyfriend at the time took her to an exhibition, and she was chosen to participate in a demonstration.

As for me, my first time doing Shibari was not a spectacular occasion. However, it has always stayed in my mind. It all began when I met Megan. I always had trouble dating people my age, so I decided to try something different. I met Megan through a dating app. At first, she thought I just wanted to try the “older woman” cliché. However, we soon began to develop sincere feelings for each other.

Megan was very insecure about being older than me. On the other hand, she had plenty of experience with kink. So, she felt comfortable including all kinds of deviations in our relationship.

One afternoon, while we were having coffee at her apartment, she told me that she wanted to try Shibari. I agreed to take some classes, but then she surprised me by saying, “I’ll teach myself.” And she did. She took me step by step through the world of ropes, explaining every part of the process. She taught me how to handle rope and to understand her as a bottom.

Everybody talks about how sexy and beautiful Shibari is, but for me, it was all about tenderness that first time.

This is my Shibari story.