Even though kink is all about personal freedom, there is also fear in BDSM. In the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, Zadist HKM, a frequent contributor, shares his thoughts on the topic. Zadist begins by identifying fear as “the thing that often holds you back.” Fear is always an obstacle and it comes in many…
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The other day, my friends and I were talking about our first time doing Shibari. For some, their first time with ropes was equivalent to the time when they lost their virginity; for others, it was barely a special day. Dave, for example, had already tried half a dozen other kinks before Shibari. So, for…
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Yeshua Avraham, one of the admins of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, shared what he calls the “Relationship Bill of Rights”, which is a list of principles you should follow if you want your relations to be SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual). Since it is always important to promote healthy, mutually beneficial relations, we…
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He ties and unties, always ties and unties. He ties and remembers the treason, the pain deep in his heart. Then, he unties and thinks of the future, and hope surfaces. He ties again and hope disappears. He unties again, and he feels capable of forgiving and moving on. As for me, I’m Scheherazade. Let…
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White Wing Black Wing words were an ultimatum: either we did the scene as he wanted, or he would cancel our participation in the Shibari exhibition. To answer the question that most probably is on your mind, I will say that White Wing Black Wing is the artistic name of the bondage artist with whom…
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I’m an artist. And artists never stop being artists. That is, a painter is always looking for something to paint. A writer, even if he’s having lunch, will come up with ideas for new stories. I’m a rope artist and I never stop thinking what I’m going to do in my next scene. That’s how…
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Shibari is not just about ropes. Of course, tying is the essence of Shibari. However, in any scene there is a lot more going on than just that. Actually, in Shibari there’s a great deal of intimacy. Acknowledging the intimate connection between participants is the first step toward a more intense bond through ropes. Intimacy…
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Shibari is not only a matter of ropes. There are many elements in a Shibari scene beyond tying – Emotions, for example, are intense and powerful in a Shibari scene. And you should understand how to handle them. The fact of playing top and bottom has intense emotional effects in the partners. For the top,…
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Everybody has heard about generations. If you were born between 1946 and 1964, you’re a boomer. If it was between 1965 and 1980, you’re a member of Generation X. And, if you were born between 1981 and 1996, you’re a Millennial (others will call you a member of Generation Z). Finally, if you were born…
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I’ve been a rigger for over twelve years. And I specialize in Shibari for people who are not bondage enthusiasts. In all those years, I’ve received my share of strange requests. After all, bondage can mean many different things for many different people. But nothing prepared me for what I call “deep Shibari”. This is…
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