Shibari for the Masses

BDSM in general and bondage in particular have become more popular in recent years. We have already discussed that in previous articles. Does this mean that we’re about to see an era of Shibari for the masses? A time when bondage will become a common topic in conversations and a practice most people will be familiar with? Are we about to find a kit of ropes in anybody’s closet? The answer, unfortunately, is no. At least that’s the conclusion offered by sociological expert Ray Mong, whom we interviewed for this article.

Mong agrees that BDSM is becoming mainstream at an accelerated rate. “People have never been more open to sexual innovation,” he says. And adds, “And we should also consider that younger generations always want to go a step further than their predecessors.” Therefore, it makes sense for the younger generation to try BDSM practices, especially those that their parents and grandparents didn’t dare fully dwell on.

But here’s when the tricky part comes. “As popular as bondage is today, I don’t think we will be seeing the emergence of a Shibari for the masses any time soon,” abounds Mong. The reason? “Unfortunately, the trend favorable to diverse (and intense) sexuality clashes with another, even stronger, current trend. And that’s feminism.”

In previous articles, we have argued that BDSM and feminism do not contradict each other. Actually, bondage can be one of the most empowering experiences for a woman. However, there are many people who just can’t—or don’t want to—understand how a tied woman can be in a situation of empowerment.

“The good news is that I’m positive we can convince the detractors of bondage about its value for women. The bad news is that it’s going to take time. This kind of sociological change takes plenty of time,” concludes Ray Mong.

How about you? Would you be willing to contribute to the discussion and bring Shibari to the masses?