It was horrible. It was worse than my worst nightmare. And it was the moment when Shibari taught me to be vulnerable. My husband and I were coming back from a night at the cinema—you know, one of those “let’s get away without the kids and remember how it used to be” kind of nights.…
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I should say Harry. Or, maybe, my husband Harry; or my hubby Harry, which sounds fun. But he would never allow me to refer to him in such an “indecent” manner. He is Mr. Mckenna, lawyer, father, and patriot. And even at the family table, our five sons and I must address him in that…
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You have to understand, my brother. He wanted to be forever young, forever cool, and forever alternative, meaning unconventional. Now, that’s not what I would call a realistic set of goals. Of course, when he was young, he more or less got away with it. After all, he’s handsome, smart, and works his ass off…
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I’m a magician, but not the kind of magician you’re thinking of. I don’t wear a tuxedo or a top hat. Neither do I wear gothic makeup or pretend to be the coolest guy on earth. However, I do have something unique to offer. I don’t do card tricks, fire tricks, or knife tricks. I…
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Nothing is real on TV, believe me. However, to update it, I should say: “Whatever you see on a screen, it’s not real”. Trust me, I’ve worked in the media since my early twenties. And, all things considered, I can tell you that eleven out of ten things you see on your screen are fake.…
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Sebastian Melmoth, a member of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted a series of questions about insecure dominants. This must be a sensible topic for many people, for there were 147 comments, way more than for most of the other posts. The BDSM community frequently discusses the topic of vulnerability. However, they are not…
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Yeshua Avraham, a member of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this double question: “What is your concept of a master? What is your concept of a slave?.” There were a dozen answers, which indicates this is an important topic for people involved in a power dynamic. Master and slave, as well as the…
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Mac Mclaughlin, administrator of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this question: “What would you suggest for bringing the BDSM community closer?.” There were almost thirty answers, and here we discuss the results. In a previous post, we spoke about the importance of a sense of community among practitioners of BDSM. They are a…
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Mac Mclaughlin, administrator of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this question: “Do you prefer rope or leather restraints?” There were about a dozen answers, and here are the results. First, let’s remember what we’re talking about when we talk about restraints. You use them to hold either the wrists or the ankles. They…
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BDSM practices require skill, imagination, and a strong sense of responsibility toward the other participants involved. In the case of subs, it is not easy to find someone with whom to share their vulnerability. That’s why many subs prefer older partners, who already have experience developing relationships within a power dynamic and performing different practices.…
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