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Shibari Needs Trust

I had to do it. I’m sorry. And yet, I don’t regret my decision. It’s not just a matter of safety. Shibari needs trust and I couldn’t trust her anymore. At first, I was willing to let her do anything she wanted. But when she started taking that crap, she began to make mistakes. And,…
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Shibari Scene Preparation

Shibari scene preparation is an essential part of the bondage process. It is the first step toward a great experience for all participants involved. There are some key elements you must consider when planning a Shibari scene. The first one is the setting. Until recently, there were two basic options: either the scene took place…
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Breach of consent

Even the most careful and caring participants in a Shibari scene can make mistakes. Breach of consent is the accidental violation of something that participants previously agreed during the negotiation. It is different from predatory behavior, since it is accidental and not deliberate. Breach of consent can be either the rigger’s or the bottom’s responsiblity.…
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Negotiation

Negotiation is an open, constructive discussion which takes place before a Shibari scene. Participants must express clearly and specifically their interests, desires, comfort levels and boundaries. In the end, negotiation sets the terms for a commitment between partners. It is, therefore, very important to keep communication open and honest during negotiation. This is the only…
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Consent

Consent should be the foundation of any relationship. Even in a non-sexual encounter, such as a Shibari scene, an informed decision to participate is absolutely necessary. This is the case especially when you haven’t known your partner for very long, but it also applies to long-time partners. Never take anything for granted. Never assume that…
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SSC

SSC stands for Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Those three words sum up the ethics of Shibari. Even though there are still many people who think according to the old taboo, for which Shibari in particular and BDSM in general is a perversion, that is, a sick and inadmissible deviation of sexuality, bondage practices become more…
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Consent in a Shibari Scene

Shibari is a BDSM practice, and like any other BDSM practice, it is important to have good communication, trust, and to never forget consent and negotiations before a scene. Consent is very important. If you rely only on implied consent, there is a lot of room for misinterpretation. Therefore, you cannot count on someone being…
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