In a negotiation, each of the parts has the right to agree and disagree with the ideas of the other part. In other words, negotiating doesn’t mean that you always have to say “yes”, just because the other party asked you to agree to something. You have the right to say no. And it is…
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A couple of weeks ago, Ms. Dorothy Kupra, also known as “The Purple Witch,” a renowned feminist, devoted her weekly column on The Warrior Vagina website to criticizing BDSM in general and bondage in particular. In her text, Ms. Kupra said that BDSM is “by definition, oppressive to women.” She also stated that “while it…
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Shibari might be intimidating for beginners. After all, the knots seem complicated, and scenes can last for hours. However, it is not rocket science, in the end. So, in this article, we offer you the 4 keys of Shibari. We hope you find them useful. First key: Imagination. Shibari is not just about ropes and…
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Suspension is the most fascinating—and the most dangerous—of the Shibari feats. Hanging above the floor and feeling the hug of the ropes is the most exhilarating experience for bondage practitioners and enthusiasts alike. In this article, we offer 4 tips for trying suspension, especially if you’re doing it for the first time. First of all,…
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Mac MacLaughlin is the manager of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group. Earlier this month, he published a brief but valuable statement about creating safe spaces in which a kinky relationship can develop. We consider it so insightful that we are happy to reproduce Mac’s text here. “Creating a safe and open environment for exploration…
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The “Free the Kink” Facebook group shares several visual materials that remind their members and visitors of just how important consent is in any kinky practice. As any BDSM enthusiast knows, consent is always essential to keep things SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual). Some of the slogans provided by “Free the Kink” include the following:…
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A bondage party is a great alternative for an original celebration. Instead of the typical Dance-Drinks-Dates reunion, you can surprise your friends with a rope-themed event. In this article, we offer some tips for a Shibari party that might be helpful for you. First of all, make your party vanilla-friendly. That is, take into consideration…
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Yeshua Avraham, one of the admins of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, shared what he calls the “Relationship Bill of Rights”, which is a list of principles you should follow if you want your relations to be SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual). Since it is always important to promote healthy, mutually beneficial relations, we…
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Domination is not abuse. Undeniably, it might look abusive from the outside. However, those who practice such dynamics know that this is a myth that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Actually, domination is all about the sub’s wellbeing. It is the sub’s happiness that produces the greatest satisfaction in the dominant party. Wellness Domination…
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I had to do it. I’m sorry. And yet, I don’t regret my decision. It’s not just a matter of safety. Shibari needs trust and I couldn’t trust her anymore. At first, I was willing to let her do anything she wanted. But when she started taking that crap, she began to make mistakes. And,…
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