Tag: Emotional connection

The Invisible Bond

A Shibari scene needs three ropes that intertwine with each other. The first one is the physical rope, which accounts for the shape and strength of the scene. The second one is the emotional connection between top and bottom, which can be extremely intense. The third one is the professional bond between rigger and bunny,…
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Shibari and Vulnerability

It was hell on Earth! My husband had been in Afghanistan for six months. Then, one day, I received a message that almost killed me: he had been captured by the enemy. That’s when my own, personal hell began. And it lasted for four months. Until one day, an army officer came to see me.…
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Shibari Is not Humiliating

It was awful. I thought it was normal. And I thought everybody did it. Damn! I should have thought twice. Had I know Shibari is not humiliating, it would have saved me a lot of trouble. My girlfriend and I went to a hotel to have some quality time together. While she was getting comfortable…
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Happy Birthday, Kinbakushi!

Sixty is a difficult age. One the one hand, you’ve learned plenty, lived plenty, and enjoyed plenty; that’s good. On the other, you’ve seen too much, you’re tired and embittered, and you don’t feel strong enough for the things you used to do without getting tired. I had no idea many people would say to…
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