Negotiation is an open, constructive discussion which takes place before a Shibari scene. Participants must express clearly and specifically their interests, desires, comfort levels and boundaries. In the end, negotiation sets the terms for a commitment between partners. It is, therefore, very important to keep communication open and honest during negotiation. This is the only…
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My name is David and I’m a gameholic. I admit it, I have a problem, an addiction, actually. I’ve tried to get rid of it, I’ve really tried, but it is stronger than me. It almost cost me my marriage, but thanks to Shibari it is not a problem anymore. And that is because Shibari…
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They said it was impossible. They said I would never be able to do it. And they said I had to be crazy just to think it could ever happen. And I wanted to prove them wrong. I also wanted my life back. You see, other people do Shibari for fun, or for pleasure. I…
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“I tie their bodies because I couldn’t tie their souls.” This is what an old Shibari master said in an interview when they asked him about his reasons for tying up women and suspending them above the ground. It is also my reason for Shibari. Everybody needs a reason for Shibari. I’m an ugly man.…
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You might think of submission as allowing yourself to be controlled, being passive, losing your own will. You’re wrong. Submission is as powerful as dominance. It’s just that it is a different kind of power. Let me tell you my story, so that you understand the true meaning of submission. I had never heard of…
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I hate noise. I mean, I really hate it. Worst thing about it is… I work in a big city. I have to. I’ve had a great career in advertising so far, and I shouldn’t complain. However, all the noise in the street just kills me. It gets worse on the subway, with all the…
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The first time we tried Shibari, it was a disaster. My husband was so ashamed that he couldn’t stop apologizing. I had several horrible red lines all over my skin because of the friction caused by the rope. I barely could sleep, and, when I took a shower, I couldn’t resist hot water for a…
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Julie is one of the best bottoms I’ve ever worked with. She’s passionate about our scenes, and she’s a very kind person offstage. However, she’s always a little bit sad, lately. You see, she used to be gorgeous. I mean, really gorgeous! She showed me a few pictures from the time she worked as a…
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Some couples go to therapy, and that’s fine. But, for us, the idea of going to a stranger’s office and telling them our most intimate secrets was just not good. Moreover, the thought of paying them tons of money and spending what might become months or years working with them, was totally unconvincing. I would…
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SSC stands for Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Those three words sum up the ethics of Shibari. Even though there are still many people who think according to the old taboo, for which Shibari in particular and BDSM in general is a perversion, that is, a sick and inadmissible deviation of sexuality, bondage practices become more…
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