From Empowered to Overpowered

Nobody is going to tell us how to live our lives. We decided that long ago. No one will tell us what to think or what to feel. That’s why we are together, despite everything. Despite the world. On the other hand, there is nothing sexier than submission. We try to deny it because it is not correct wanting to have someone under your will. But it is true. Does this sound like a problem impossible to solve? Well, it is not. The key here is consent. And consent is the foundation of the Shibari game that allows us to go from empowered to overpowered.

I met Laura a couple of years ago. We fell in love, and we didn’t waste a single second caring for what other people had to say about two women loving each other. We are empowered enough to make our own decisions and go our own ways.

We’re both kink, and the problem is: we both like to be the dominant part. Now, some people say that if both partners are dominant, that’s like having two Beta fish in the same tank: they’ll end up killing each other. But we have found a solution.

Our game has two parts. First, we struggle. We both have training in martial arts. So, we enjoy fighting to submit the other. You should see us roll all across our bedroom, clung to one another, breathing heavily, sweating. Second part of the game: the one who loses consents to be tied. Now, I like to tie Laura in the leapfrog position when I win. And, when I lose, I feel like a winner, anyway, if you know what I mean.

For us, Shibari has been the solution for a relationship where both parties are dominant. If you use your imagination, you might add it to your relationships, as well.

That’s how we go from empowered to overpowered.