4 Keys to Domination

For some people, “domination” alludes to leather, spanking and restraint. For others, especially those whose only contact with kink has been “Fifty Shades”, it implies a psychological, almost supernatural power, over someone else’s will. Even though both are partially true, they don’t exhaust the meaning of domination. To make things clearer, in this article we offer 4 keys to domination, which you can start applying in your next bondage scene.

First key, be confident in your abilities. Of course, to be confident you must have the necessary skills, otherwise, you’re just bragging. So, prepare yourself, take another workshop, read another book, practice one more hour at the studio.

Second key, lead. A dominant cannot be a follower. Followers are fine for social media, but not when it comes to a power dynamic. Do not be afraid to command. Make sure, however, that you have a point and that what you ask for makes sense. Otherwise, you’re just being authoritarian. And nobody likes that.

Third key, keep things under control. No matter how well planned, there will always be unforeseen events in any Shibari scene. These eventualities can be insignificant, or they can become a serious emergency. In either case, make sure not to fall prey of panic. Keep your thoughts clear and your actions coherent. Solve the problem and move on.

Final key, don’t be selfish. Domination is not about caring only for yourself, is about taking the submissive partner under your wing. A true dominant finds his biggest pride in the submissive partner’s welfare and satisfaction.

Keeping these 4 keys to domination in mind at every step of your relationship will make the power dynamic healthier and more satisfactory for all parties involved. Obviously, the way to apply them is different in every partnership, but the general principles remain valid.

Good luck!