Yeshua Avraham, a member of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this double question: “What is your concept of a master? What is your concept of a slave?.” There were a dozen answers, which indicates this is an important topic for people involved in a power dynamic. Master and slave, as well as the…
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Mac Mclaughlin, administrator of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this question: “What would you suggest for bringing the BDSM community closer?.” There were almost thirty answers, and here we discuss the results. In a previous post, we spoke about the importance of a sense of community among practitioners of BDSM. They are a…
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Mac Mclaughlin, administrator of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this question: “Does spirituality play any part in your dynamic?”. There were over forty answers about the relation between sexuality and spirituality, and here we discuss the results. First of all, the answers were divided. This comes as no surprise since statistics consistently show…
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Mac Mclaughlin, administrator of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this question: “What are some common misconceptions about BDSM you’ve encountered?” There were over thirty answers, and here we discuss the results. As you probably know, BDSM has been surrounded by misconceptions from the start. It has taken a long time for people to…
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Mac Mclaughlin, administrator of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted this question: “Do you prefer rope or leather restraints?” There were about a dozen answers, and here are the results. First, let’s remember what we’re talking about when we talk about restraints. You use them to hold either the wrists or the ankles. They…
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CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) is the current fad in BDSM. It is a form of agreeing to disagree. In other words, partners agree to act as if they were engaging in forced activity. It is important to notice that CNC is not breaching consent. It is more of a roleplaying game in which you play a…
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They told us to be strong. Also, they told us to despise weak people. And self-pity was the greatest crime of all. They taught us to be strong, and they told us it was wrong to show vulnerability. And yet, there’s a lot to say about what the pandemic taught us about vulnerability. We discovered…
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BDSM practices require skill, imagination, and a strong sense of responsibility toward the other participants involved. In the case of subs, it is not easy to find someone with whom to share their vulnerability. That’s why many subs prefer older partners, who already have experience developing relationships within a power dynamic and performing different practices.…
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Punishment play stands as a prevalent BDSM practice, intricately entwined with dynamics of dominance and power. Similarly, the artful allure of Shibari, often associated with aesthetic beauty, can be repurposed for rope restraint as a form of punishment play. This unique convergence between artistic expression and disciplinary action harkens back to Shibari’s origins in Hojojutsu,…
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Whenever you’re working with someone else, you’re coordinating yourself with that person. Coordination might sound like just another way to say “working together”, but it goes way beyond that. The Oxford Dictionary defines coordination as “the organization of the different elements of a complex activity so as to enable them to work together effectively.” As…
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