What is BDSM for Beginners? – Part 2

In part 1 of BDSM for beginners, we have already elaborated on some of the crucial aspects of this practice. Now we come with new questions and clarifications. For instance, what does it mean to be dominant?

BDSM for Beginners: the Dominant

To begin with, you and your partner must first decide who is going to play the dominant role and who is going to be the submissive. It is very important to experience both sides of the play. The domination role will always demonstrate the skill and power over the other. But here is where it can get interesting: people often refer to the dominant/submissive dynamic as top and bottom. In BDSM, the top is the dominant part, whereas and the bottom is the submissive. The one on top does de spanking, bondage, clamping, and whipping. However, you can also turn this around when your submissive partner demands the top to perform certain acts of their choosing. And even insist on switching roles.

The Submissive

What, then, does it mean to be a submissive? The position of a submissive lover is one of trust and learning. It involves giving away the reins to your mind and body. Even more so, it means allowing your lover or partner to take control of them fully. Although this may sound like a little relinquishing, in this dynamic you still have a voice. You can take control under your mutual consent. Remember: you should practice BDSM only in trusting partnerships. Lovers should always find a level of balance and be able to guide sex with the boundaries of their own desires without the pressure to exceed them. When giving your partner or lover submissive control over you, you are not letting them do whatever they please.

BDSM for Beginners: All About Communication

If you are at any point uncomfortable, let your partner know how you are feeling right away. You get to set the boundaries of your sexual play just as much as they do. In whatever role you play in this dynamic, if you’re unhappy, you must raise the issue.