3 Signs that Shibari Is Not for You

Shibari is not everybody’s cup of tea. There are people who truly enjoy tying and being tied. Or, at least, they like watching bondage scenes just like they would do with any other work of art. On the other hand, there are people who just can’t stand rope games. Here we offer 3 signs that show Shibari is not for you.

The first of the three signs that Shibari is not for you is that you don’t like ropes. Sounds obvious, right? And yet, there are many —and I mean many— people who go to a bondage workshop just to find out that they don’t like the weight, the color, and the texture of ropes! If you think that ropes are as boring as a pencil with the tip broken, then Shibari is not what you need.

Second sign: you can’t overcome the mess that comes with every scene. Ropes produce a lot —and I mean a lot— of shedding. Tying someone is as hard as doing an hour of cardio. People sweat during scenes. And friction marks are not unusual. If all of this sounds like the last thing you would like to do on Earth, then sign for the book club. Shibari is just not your thing.

Finally, and this is an important indicator of whether ropes can become your thing or not, you should be sensitive to all that goes beyond tying. Shibari is not just knots and ropes, it involves emotions, a power dynamic, communication, trust, the list goes on! If all you see in bondage is tying and untying, then you’re just like the persons who all they can see in ballet is people jumping in funny suits.

Disliking Shibari doesn’t make you a bad person. It doesn’t even make you less kinky. It just means that Shibari is not for you. And, as we said before, Shibari is not everybody’s cup of tea.

So, what do you think abot these 3 signs that Shibari is not for you?