A Preacher’s Dilemma

Most congregations have a form of confession. Leaving aside the theological aspects, it is always therapeutic to have the occasion to discuss one’s faults, and receive consolation and advice for them. My group is no different. I usually have individual sessions of confession during the whole Thursday afternoon. I never thought one of these sessions would bring me a true preacher’s dilemma. But it did.

Emma is one of the most regular attendees at my services. She’s sort of my “groupie,” if we may use the term. I must say that, even though I’m married, and she’s married, we’ve always felt a kind of mutual attraction. Now, we take the values of our congregation very seriously. That’s why nothing has happened between us so far. But, when I heard her confession last Thursday, things became more difficult than ever.

She told me that her husband wanted to reignite the passion in their bedroom. That’s not unusual. Most marriages that have been together for more than ten years have to deal with the problem of sex becoming rutinous. What strikes me is that he asked to try Shibari. A friend of the office had told him about it, and he thought it would be really sexy.

So, they went to a workshop and did a scene together. It was a very simple thing. Emma explained to me that it takes a lot of time to master the ropes. Nonetheless, it was such an exciting experience for both of them, that when they came back home, they made love for hours, like they used to do in their twenties.

Now, here’s a preacher’s dilemma for you. I got really excited to hear Emma talking about bondage. And now I want to try it with my wife. On the one hand, it can have for us the same effect that it had for Emma and her husband. On the other hand, I’m afraid of what people in my congregation might say if they knew that their preacher finds stimulating tying his wife up, while she’s barely dressed.

What do you think?