Tell the Truth

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“I want a man who is man enough to pin me down and tie me up.” That’s what I said. And the rest of the girls stared at me as if I had said some blasphemy. And in a certain way, I did. I spoke against hypocrisy. I told the truth, and I’d like everybody else to also tell the truth.

Let me give you the context. Each month, my friends and I have a ladies’ night. Basically, we spend some hours having fancy drinks and talking about everything in our lives, from our jobs to the latest movies, to the current political issues, and, yes!, to our most recent bedroom experiences.

I must admit that in the past few months I have delved into kink like never before. I always liked a touch of kink here and there, but I had always thought about some sort of spice, something you add up in little doses to make things better.

However, I’ve changed my mind recently. Now, I think of kink as a whole lifestyle. The idea of being outside the mainstream, of taking risks, and of allowing myself what I used to refuse, even though I wanted it, makes more sense with every passing day.

As for my friends, some of them are all the way into the feminist discourse. So, they think of the whole BDSM thing as a disguise for oppression. For them, the idea of a woman being tied or spanked is incompatible with their drive for feminine empowerment.

As for me, I don’t see the contradiction. There are many of us women who enjoy this or that BDSM practice. For us, the empowering thing to do is to actually admit that we want it and make it come true.

So, what about you? What is your secret desire? Tell the truth.

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